i have been reading a book about Princess Caroline of Brunswick, also Princess Caroline of Wales, also Queen Caroline of England.
She was married to George, the Prince of Wales who was by my reckoning, acted like a right twat.
He was already married, to a "commoner", when they married by arrangement between the families.
He detested her on sight and spent his life making her life a misery.
She left England and travelled through the continent drinking and bonking her way around the place until she ended up with a tasty Italian chap and seemed rather happy.
Unfortunately she came back to England and underwent a trial based on her sullied reputation.
She was not without a rich and varied love life but her trial was never about who committed adultery first.
"the purity of women was prized in society... precisely because men could not aspire to that honour and grace which embellished women, espcially English women. Hence, to safeguard that purity, adultery in women was a crime, and a ground for divorce, while it was condoned in the stronger sex."
this flabbergasted me.
mostly because, taking away the archaic language it is what my mother passed on to me about sexuality.
that was spoken in 1820.
two hundred years ago
and i am still carrying echoes of it in my bones.
i am glad that Caroline went and shagged her handsome Italian (and all the other men she did) she was handed a bum deal in life and she went out and made lemonade (and drank it in exotic places with lusty men)
i am sorry that she was dragged through the mud by the double standards of the day
but i am even sorrier that i haven't examined this ridiculous peice of twaddle before now...
i held it as a virtue that i have only ever slept with my husband
i had always thought it was up to me to uphold the balance of that energy in a sexual transaction....
stronger sex my arse - women had to uphold their virtue and rein in their lust to manage the uncontrolled lust of a man....
The colour of the sky *the ocean * Elizabeth and Maeve * people who reach beyond the ordinary * genuine generosity *good food * watching things grow * the miracle of birth *a woman's power *tenderness in all its forms * the cycle of life * courage * people with a sense of fun * compassion * beautiful jewellery * art that is made from the heart - without a view to the purchaser or the market but made because it has to come *Clarissa Pincola Estes * grace
LIKE SANDS THROUGH THE HOURGLASS THESE ARE MORETHINGSTHATITHINK
i welcome you with warmth and love to the thoughts that grab me .... and the way they come out of my fingers when i make the time in my day as a mother and artist and poodle walker to write them down.....