a catch up post reverb10

Author: Brené Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
@brenebrown
Prompt: Ordinary joy. Our most profound joy is often experienced during ordinary moments. What was one of your most joyful ordinary moments this year?i think the time i came into my work space and found a note from my daughter telling me she loved me....

my heart cracked wide open...

Author: Kathryn Fitzmaurice
The Year the Swallows Came Early
@KFitzmaurice

Prompt: Defining moment. Describe a defining moment or series of events that has affected your life this year.

i guess having the guts to go to the market with my silver work defined my year- the courage to stand behind my work, to say i made this - to put myself out there - to back myself.... that was the defining moment....

my BIG Fearless Tribal painting - that took courage too but i took that step in a warm supportive community....

to step out into my own town and say look at what i do - that was huge...

PERFECTION - IT SUCKS

As you will know if you have read this blog for a bit, i think Brene Brown is a pretty juicy thing.

Her long-term committment to uncovering the gifts in shame, worthiness and perfectionism has made me feel less "other" and comforted in a deep and kind way.

At the moment Brene is celebrating the release of her book "The Gifts of Imperfection".

And part of that celebration is to encourage folk to protest the cult (the silent, viscious soul draining cult) of perfectionism.

Perfectionism feeds so slurpingly on the juice and passion of life that perfectionism grows with each step we try to take towards our life's calling ...

that is a sure way to die aching.

But by seeing perfectionism and naming it for the futile parasite that it is we can save the juice to feed the seed of all we were meant to be...

so as i wipe the rabid flecks of froth off my chin from that little rant i want to offer you a chance to read and join in...

Bloggers all over the world are posting pictures of their protest banners... here is the page Brene introduces this sparkly idea on...

Mine is from my journal - a page i made ages ago and now have the perfect (oops - see how incidious it is???) use for....

the page is lumpy, uneven, blemished

but to me it is good

and good is good enough

and so i encourage you to join the protest and save your juice for what counts...

for your soul.

xxx

benefits of being enough

(me trying to pimp Brene to my sheep - they all have a strong sense of inner worthiness which is part of the reason i love them so much)

now that i have a tshirt to prove it

(and you can have one too of course just follow the steps at the end of this post)

i want to talk about the benefits of being enough

1. YOU ARE AVAILABLE TO YOURSELF

Suddenly by being enough you can be much kinder to yourself.

All that frenetic dancing, all that hustle for worthiness, the plastered on smiles, ALL OF THAT EXTRANEOUS ENERGY SAPPING CRAP just doesn't seem so necessary.

All the energy you waste being something you are not and something you don't even really want to be but think you should in order to achieve some kind of acceptance, is now available to you to make choices that honour your heart.

you are there to be kind to yourself.

and that feels nice -

it is not like having a cheerleading squad inside your head (that makes me a little queazy just thinking about pompoms and short skirts and "Go Jane,Go gimmea j gimmea a..." while i am making dinner)

but it is when you can say to yourself

"oh crap, that was a bit sucky, ah well we'll try again next time"

or even better

"Yeh, that was pretty good" - us New Zealanders tend to go for understated and that works for me... your sense of worthiness might love the pompoms, ...

2.IT IS QUIETER INSIDE YOUR HEAD.

When you stop measuring yourself outside yourself -

ie: your internal markers of enough suddenly take a deep sigh, stop listening to that inner critic and listen to the warm feeling in your heart which is always present when you are doing what you love.

That internal critic suddenly has to relenquish control of the volume knob... sure they are still there clamouring for attention but they no longer get to be boss of the joint.

that quiet is so marvellous i can hardly tell you ....

3. YOU GIVE OTHER PEOPLE PERMISSION TO BE WORTHY TOO.

When you no longer require so much approval from those around you, the ones you had to dance and hustle the hardest for drop off your radar. This can be painful - but momentarily - think band aid being ripped off...

The ones who see you - really see you, seem to:

a: be glad for you and your new found ease

b. think it's worth trying themselves

c. walk their road with more joy

d. are good to be around

(this is officially called the selfperpetuatingcycleofbloodymarvellousduetoinnerworthiness)

4. GOOD NEW STUFF STARTS FLOODING IN

Relenquishing the Hustle for worthiness means that you declutter your inner life...

if you are good enough right here right now all of the things you had to do in order to achieve worthy disappear..

which leads to declutter which leads to space which leads to a portal for all kinds of marvellous to come flooding in.

all of which sounds pretty sodding wonderful actually

i would recommend it from my personal experience

(this post was not sponsored by any one individual although that may seem hard to beleive seeing i am pimping Brene Brown right now but my sense of worthiness says it's ok, so i believe me!)

if you want a handpainted ENOUGH t shirt please email me at

faerianseed@gmail.com

tell me whether you would like

organic ($20 NZ)

or a regular cotton tshirt ($10 NZ)

please go here to convert it if you need to
(i will need to add postage depending on where you live)

and your boob size

and i will email you a pay pal thingy

i will order tshirts next week people so you can join me in the notsosecretENOUGHtshirt club

thanks

love me and my inner sense of worthiness
xxxx

worthiness

(this is me two days ago - i tried this and still i think i am unworthy... holy crap what will it take???)

i love Brene Brown





(the magnificent midwife to the words on her blog ordinary courage and author of books that i am saving up to buy ...here's a link to her latest post... http://ordinarycourage.com/)





i love her in that way that means i carry a little bit of her in my head and ponder over her words often during my day, but if i ever got to meet her i would look at my shoes (she lives in a cold place so i would be wearing shoes) and blush and say UMMM alot...





i have to say that before i go any further and get told off for bias...





and any of you who have read this blog to any degree know i have a thing or two to say about deserving, about self worth, about being enough....





and this week Brene, to celebrate the release of her new DVD "the hustle for worthiness" she is challenging encouraging us to write about worthiness





about being enough





and i was thinking that enough always has a bad connotation in my life as in





"That's enough " (said in a grumpy exasperated mother/teacher voice - usually in relation to frivolity or noise or general non seriousness)





or "that'll be enough" (which is immediately telling me that i haven't given ample... just that mediocre measure of the minimum)





being enough is never an overflowing, abundant, juicy word...

it is mingy and tight and dry in your mouth...





it is always something to over-reach





something to aim past





as if perfectionism and the drive to give ourselves all ulcers with constantly trying to be more than we are is something to be proud of...





well fuck it





enough is enough





(hee hee had to throw that in there)





i am going to reclaim the word ENOUGH





i am going to follow that honourable tradition of reclaiming sullied words - (think GAY think BLACK)

I am going to wear enough proudly

i might even make a tshirt

right now, if i am enough- then i am worthy... no waiting til i get some magical approval from outside me for my efforts at being more... right now i am enough...

do you hear the doors opening??

do you hear the sphincters unclenching???

do you hear the big sigh from deep within my chest???

i do

(and if you want a tshirt i am seriously thinking about it!)