Monday, May 9, 2011

my own little standing up for myself revolution


sometimes standing up for myself means:
STEP 1: ACKNOWLEDGMENT.
acknowledging that i feel hurt
acknowledging that i feel fear

STEP 2:DISSECTION
thinking about what i truely want from the situation -
do i want this for myself?
do i want to be seen to be good?

STEP 3: COST BENEFIT ANALYSIS
what is the benefit to me?
what is the cost to me and those i love?
do i want to persue this no matter what?

STEP 4:WEIGHT TO LIGHT RATIO
weighing ALL the factors up.
finding out which option brings more light

After much analysis and heart examination (and chickens in my head) i have done the above step wise process and i now am walking away.

This is revolutionary
i used to think standing up for myself meant fighting
sword and breastplate and speaking my truth as the fire licked my JoanofArcish ankles

but now i see that walking away with integrity is a loving and valid way to stand up for myself.

my own revolution

9 comments:

  1. Wow, this is really powerful and something I want to spend some time reflecting on. I love your blog-it gives a lot of food for thought. Vanessa (an unravelling friend)

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  2. oh that's a mighty fine revolution if i've ever heard of one
    brava to you dear chica, for doing that big thing

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  3. Shouting out "YES" to the Revolution!

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  4. Yeah, that step four one really takes some doing, eh?
    Love you and your Joan of Arcish heels.

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  5. okay......you keep being brilliant here. i gotta share this one too.......
    this is really good and helpful! thank you!

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  6. love the 'which option brings more light' That is truly what it is all about : )

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  7. Beautiful! I'm dissecting :)

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  8. jane, you are something wonderful

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  9. walking away with integrity...what a beautiful concept we tend to ignore as a choice...I followed Terri from BoneSigh here...again!

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